Monthly Archives: July 2013

As I’ve Aged

My father emailed this to me and I have to say that I just love it. When I was younger, I always said that I  would “grow old gracefully”. Throughout the years, I have struggled between vanity and maintaining my vow to grow old gracefully. On occasion, I have wiped away my wrinkles, but I prefer to have them because they were earned when I was busy loving, caring, worrying about loved ones. It is true that you can put your guard up and and never have a broken heart, but what good would that do, except live a life with no love, that’s not living at all. I share this with you and hope that you see the beauty in it the same way I have. 




As I’ve aged, I’ve become kinder to myself and less critical of myself. I’ve become my own friend.


I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.


Whose business is it, if I choose to read, or play, on the computer, until 4 AM, or sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50, 60 &70’s, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love, I will.


I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves, with abandon, if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.They, too, will get old.


I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And, I eventually remember the important things.


Sure, over the years, my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break, when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody’s beloved pet gets hit by a car? But, broken hearts are what give us strength, and understanding, and compassion. A heart never broken, is pristine, and sterile, and will never know the joy of being imperfect.


I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.


As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don’t question myself anymore. I’ve even earned the right to be wrong.


So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).



Friends First? Not For Me.

After reading one of my online dating emails, I had a slight epiphany… I date with the intention of meeting “the one”. People have always told me that they do the “friends first” thing and maybe I should do that because then I would get to know someone… and eventually be in a relationship. It’s never been my thing. Ever. The way I see it, if I date with the intention of meeting “THE ONE”, we will either find each other or we won’t. Trust that if you get friend zoned first, I’m not going to be in a romantic relationship with you second. 


I have guys that tell me that they want to be “friends first” and get to know each other. Well, here’s what I have to say to that… if you want to be friends first, then I will get to know you as a friend. I will not get to know you as a potential husband, boyfriend, or lover. I will treat you as a friend. I will not treat you as someone that I could see spending the rest of my life with. I will see you as that nice guy who I can hang out with… when I have time. I will not see you as the man that I can’t wait to talk to and wake up every morning for the rest of my life with.


Don’t get me wrong, there are many happily married (or not married) couples that were friends first… and eventually they became drawn to each other… and one day realized that they wanted to be in a relationship. That is amazing!! I am so happy for them!! However, for me, I have never seen myself meeting the love of my life that way.


I feel that if the Law of Attraction, The Secret and countless other books and documentaries and personal improvements seminars are right about attracting the right business opportunities and people into your life, it should work for relationships as well. Then again, who knows? I guess I’ll find out.