Friends First? Not For Me.

After reading one of my online dating emails, I had a slight epiphany… I date with the intention of meeting “the one”. People have always told me that they do the “friends first” thing and maybe I should do that because then I would get to know someone… and eventually be in a relationship. It’s never been my thing. Ever. The way I see it, if I date with the intention of meeting “THE ONE”, we will either find each other or we won’t. Trust that if you get friend zoned first, I’m not going to be in a romantic relationship with you second. 


I have guys that tell me that they want to be “friends first” and get to know each other. Well, here’s what I have to say to that… if you want to be friends first, then I will get to know you as a friend. I will not get to know you as a potential husband, boyfriend, or lover. I will treat you as a friend. I will not treat you as someone that I could see spending the rest of my life with. I will see you as that nice guy who I can hang out with… when I have time. I will not see you as the man that I can’t wait to talk to and wake up every morning for the rest of my life with.


Don’t get me wrong, there are many happily married (or not married) couples that were friends first… and eventually they became drawn to each other… and one day realized that they wanted to be in a relationship. That is amazing!! I am so happy for them!! However, for me, I have never seen myself meeting the love of my life that way.


I feel that if the Law of Attraction, The Secret and countless other books and documentaries and personal improvements seminars are right about attracting the right business opportunities and people into your life, it should work for relationships as well. Then again, who knows? I guess I’ll find out.




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